Why Real Love Is Better Than The Notebook

I used to believe that The Notebook was the most romantic movie i’ve ever seen in my life. I remember aspiring to have a love like Allie and Noah. I believed it was entirely possible. My love and I would be so crazy for each other we would abandon everything and kiss in the rain or find ourselves on a boat in the middle of friggin swan lake. I thought this was the epitome of what a happy relationship would look like. However, I was absolutely wrong.

Love Is Quiet

Love does not look like two people screaming and throwing things. Love is quiet. Love has nothing to prove because love is between two people not all of your Facebook and instagram friends. Love does not cause a scene at a carnival by attempting suicide by hanging off a ferris wheel. Take note.

Love Is Active

Love does not stop because circumstances have made it difficult. 365 letters are fantastic, but what happened to the good ol phone call or road trip? Love constantly seeks to be an active part in the other’s life.

Love Is Committed

Partner too far? Oh, well mine as well get engaged to that new guy over there! No way! Love is a commitment to sticking it through with someone. That means regardless of the circumstance, you are seeing it through with patience and understanding.

Love Is Patient

While it appears Noah is just about the most romantic guy in the whole universe, you’ll notice he’s kind of a big baby, and Allie is a tad of a brat! Love involves being patient with each other and not stomping your feet out the room when someone gets on your nerves, or when you don’t get your way.

Love Is Realistic

You’ll find that what happens in The Notebook is almost highly unrealistic and not rationale. Instead when you love someone suddenly everything they do becomes an endearing gesture. The most subtle gestures can be the most moving. Each relationship is unique in what is real for them. Don’t compare yourself to fiction!

Now, true love looks like me and my husband discussing conspiracies of life, talking for our dogs in baby voices, and having secret jokes that make us look extremely weird to outsiders. We are comfortable with silence (despite me talking at 500 words per minute), we do silly dances, and we love each other in subtle ways that speak greater volumes than The Notebook ever could. He makes me feel safe because he understands me. We can read each other’s minds and we are not afraid to continue to pursue each other. He is by far the greatest love i’ve ever known. And our love is quiet. Because our love grants peace. It shows hope. It gives life.

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